Stop Asking Couples When They’re Having Kids
“So, when are you having kids?” my aunt asked me. At that point, I was 30 and had just been married for a few months. I didn’t even know if I wanted kids, much less when I was having them. So I simply said, “I haven’t decided if I want kids.” I would spend the […]
I’m Bisexual and I Have Been Resisting My Sexuality. What Should I Do?
(Image) “Firstly, I hope you will respect my wish for confidentiality and will therefore refer to me as ‘John.’ I have known that I have been bisexual (leaning towards men) for a while now. I have always wanted to keep it secret (because I don’t agree with bi/homosexuality), but it is becoming harder to do […]
What Happens When We Argue With Our Loved Ones (Burning Man Sculpture)
When’s the last time you lost your temper at a loved one? What did you say or do to him/her? When we get angry with our loved ones, we often say or do things that we later regret. We isolate ourselves from our partner/parent/child/friend, fuming and feeling upset — yet deep down, what we yearn […]
How To Be Empathetic
(Image) Recently I was sharing a problem with a good friend over text. Not only did he respond right away, which I didn’t expect because it was late his time (he lives in a different timezone), but he was very thoughtful in his reply. Some things he did that made me feel better: He didn’t […]
I’m in a Domestic Violence Situation. What Should I Do?
(Image) A while back I received an email from my client C: During our recent session, you asked me when was the first time I feared not being heard or being mocked. I’m currently introspecting about this. There’s a moment from my past that I don’t know if I experienced it or not… I wonder if […]
I Get Nervous When I See an Attractive Guy/Woman. What Should I Do?
(Image: Universal Studios / Entertainment Weekly) “Hi Celes, I have been reading your blog since 2 years ago. Your tips are amazing and have helped me a lot. There is one problem about me that I haven’t read in any article on PE or any other site. This is shameful to admit. Whenever I see […]
What If I Lack Physical Spark With My Partner?
Couple kissing (Image: stephen frith) “Hey Celes, I recently broke up with my boyfriend. He broke up with me because he felt that I didn’t enjoy the physical intimacy (like kissing, hugging or even more) and he didn’t feel appreciated, and was no longer motivated in seeing me due to my behavior. Truth is, I’m not […]
How To Stop Being Abusive to Your Partner
(Image) “Dear Celes, I really love reading your blog. You are my role model! I am actively working on revamping and changing my life with the help of your blog. Celes, I have a huge problem. I am abusive. I have made it my duty to stop cursing and stop raising my hands to my […]
Are Looks Important in a Marriage Decision?
“Hi Celes, I’ve read your soulmate series on how you met your husband. Would you have married him if you weren’t PHYSICALLY attracted to him? Personally I’ve encountered good/nice/okay guys who have expressed their interest, but I rejected them as I was not physically attracted to them. My key question is, what if you only […]
Are You Facing Repeating Patterns in Your Life?
Have you watched Groundhog Day before? It’s a movie about a TV weatherman Phil Connors (Bill Murray) who goes to a small town to cover an event called Groundhog Day. Phil is a cynical and arrogant person and looks down on everyone. Bill Murray as Phil, an arrogant weatherman who looks down on everyone At […]
